Positive Psychology

While J's in school, his teacher heard him mutter to himself, "妈咪等一下就来带我了"

After calling out (uncle, uncle, uncle) to our neighbour who didn't acknowledge (what a bummer), J consoled himself by saying "Uncle 没有听到"
Actually, this makes me rather furious since it doesn't take a lot of effort to acknowledge J. I'm glad his wife is more friendly towards J.

Unconditional love

Unconditional love is...

• cleaning shitload off bottoms and putting on clean diapers (even in wee hours when my eyes are bleary)... and then X poops again!
• pacifying crying toddler, in the middle of the night (why??!) when he calls for mummy
• playing the same games (kids love boring stuff) over and over again until I am ready to tear my hair out
• singing the same songs and doing silly actions for J to laugh/giggle and to say 'one more time'.  This golden phrase means he really loves the song.
• holding off your own needs to pee/poo/shower/eat etc so that the kids can pee/poo/shower etc FIRST
• strolling/pushing J in his stroller to look for pussy cats in the morning/afternoon/evening and sometimes in the middle of the night (G is the one who spoils market this way)
• to say NO when kids are misbehaving (I have no problem with this) 
• also about forcing down meds into J despite his protests/screams/cries  :(
• really just about being there for the kids (simple to say but not easy to do)

Sweet X

Must say that X seems to be rather cheerful and it makes my day when he flashes his smile. He may do that after a feed or when he's just happy!

Brotherly love

Some little acts of brotherly love from J:

• Upon returning home, asks 'where's didi?'
• Plays music for X on his rocker, helps to switch off rocker vibration
• When I rub J's tummy, he points to X's and says 'didi also'

Nonetheless, there's still some jealously that's apparent in J when he says mummy don't carry didi or when he yells outside my room cos he knows I am breastfeeding X inside... hopefully these will come to pass eventually :)

Conversations with J(6)

P: 老baby
J:  老婆婆!


G: Cheeky boy boy
J: Cheeky papa *grins*


When playing with cars,
Me: What colour is the lights?
J: Green man
Me: So the cars have to ...
J: STOP!
Me: so that people can ...
J: cross the road!
Me: When boy boy is in the car, you have to ...
J: WAIT!
After a while,
J: cars can go now!